I had the opportunity, recently, of spending time with Dr Espen Hjalmby, a Chiropractor, yogi, and Australian ninja warrior, based on the Gold Coast (Australia). Something he repeated several times throughout his lectures and in general conversation profoundly moved me; in fact, I found it so inspiring that I began incorporating it into my life immediately. It was these four simple, yet powerful, words: how would love respond?
When he said this it was like a light bulb turned on in my head: cha-ching! Of course… it makes so much sense! Asking yourself this question every time you face something challenging in life, or a situation where you would usually react with aggression or frustration – like when the shop assistant says something rude to you, or when someone cuts in front of you on the motorway – forces you to pause for a moment, to take a breath, and to put yourself in their shoes. Maybe that person is just having a really really bad day. Maybe they just found out their partner’s cheating on them, or they received a devastating diagnosis. It doesn’t necessarily excuse their behaviour, but if we respond with love, maybe we can make their day just that little bit brighter… or at least stop ourselves from getting stressed out and sick because of other people’s behaviour.
A wise man once said: if you want to change the world, start by changing yourself. You can’t change or control what other people say or do, but you can change/control your own thoughts, and how you respond to others. And imagine if we all responded to each other with love, imagine what that would create… an epidemic of love perhaps?! Whatever the case, bringing more love and empathy into the world can only be a good thing, in my opinion.
I know that this question has already started to change my entire outlook on life… of course, sometimes I forget and fall back into old habits, but the more I remember the more it becomes second nature to apply it to every situation.
Give it a go, and see what miracles it brings to your life.
To responding with love, always,